Understand her
In order to understand her now, you must learn about her past and understand that first because her past is what made her who she is now, maybe she’s been hurt so much it’s hard for her to trust so she puts these walls up around her and barricades her heart, she’s afraid that just maybe that if she opens up again that she will end up hurt again and she doesn’t want to go through that phase again. With that being said you have to listen to what she says, get to know what her mind is like, her thoughts are a representation of her feelings. You have to get to know her for who she is and always be honest with her so you can slowly build this trusting relationship with her. Don’t be the guy that doesn’t understand his girlfriend and the way she acts, because you never took the time to learn and understand her past, you know?
Isn’t it a nerve-wracking experience when what seemed to be a wonderful relationship suddenly turned sour? You’re left confused, trying to understand what went wrong. He used to be so excited to get into a relationship with you, only to suddenly change and tell you that he is unsure about the future and about having a family. You frequently argue, which makes things worse. Just when you thought that all was going well and your relationship seemed to be better than ever, your guy started behaving peculiarly and started becoming distant with you. This can be confusing and heartbreaking.
Sad to say but when you encounter these kinds of problems, it’s likely that your relationship is headed towards a breakup. You may find this hard to believe, but breakups happen the moment after the woman tries to solve the problems.
Unfortunately, relationships almost never work by using the scientific method. In a relationship, you don’t go identifying the problem then suggesting a solution, carrying out the solution and then see how things go.
Women who tend to try to solve everything bad in their relationship.
Instinctively these women would tell their men about the problems in their relationship and then go fixing everything as soon as they are given the chance. As the days go by that women are trying to “fix” the problem, the more the men are convinced that there might really be a problem and that the relationship may really not be working. That’s usually when he starts becoming distant - he realized that the relationship isn’t really all that fun after all.
So what can you do to erase all his doubts about the future and stop him from drifting farther away?
It may help if you look at things in a different angle. If you look at the problem as something that could ruin your relationship, then it most probably will. Instead, look at it in such a way that it becomes a challenge that the two of you can overcome together and that brings you closer to that better relationship that you have been wanting all along.
So don’t go around trying to fix the problem yourself - instead, be the woman that he used to love. If he sees you as someone worth fighting for, then you’ll see that he’ll take steps in fixing the problem himself - and he might not even know it.
